Dua’a when under stress and anxiety

بِسۡمِ ٱللهِ ٱلرَّحۡمَـٰنِ ٱلرَّحِيمِ

In the Name of Allah Most-Compassionate, Most-Merciful


Alhamdulillah, here are some dua’a to make when under stress and experiencing anxiety. They are a means of dispelling fear, of seeking forgiveness of Allah, seeking His aid, protection and guidance. They are the words of the Messenger of Allah (sall’allahu alayhi wasallam) and hence anyone that sincerely makes these dua during times of great need Allah will always answer the dua of the sinere seeker. May they be of benefit to us all for there is not a time in the life of a believer when he or shedoes not need the protection, guidance and mercy of Allah. And those that turn to Allah sincerely imploring His aid should know that in reality it is Allah  turning to His slave, for, When Allah wants to be good to someone, He tries him with some hardship.” (Abu Hurairah)

General advice from Prophet Muhammad (sall’allahu alayhi wasallam) when you are in distress or suffering from anxiety:

In hadith #599 narrated by Abdullah ibn Abbas in Sunan Abu Dawood, The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: If anyone continually asks pardon, Allah will appoint for him a way out of every distress, and a relief from every anxiety, and will provide for him from where he did not reckon.

When in distress or difficulty or sorrow:
Source for this dua subsection: Fiqh-us-Sunnah, volume 4, no 128

1. Ibn ‘Abbas reported, “The Prophet, peace be upon him, at times of sorrow and grief used to supplicate, La ilaha illa Allah Al-’Azim, Al-’Alim, la ilaha illa Allah, Rabbul ‘arshil ‘Azim, la ilaha illa Allahu, Rabbus-Samawati wa rabbul ardi wa rabbul ‘arshi karim (There is no god but Allah, the Mighty, the Forbearing, there is no god but Allah, the Lord of the mighty throne, there is no god but Allah, the Lord of the heavens and the earth, and the Lord of the throne of honor)’.”
Source: Bukhari and Muslim.

2. Anas said that when the Prophet, peace be upon him, was faced with a serious difficulty, he would always supplicate, “Ya Hayyu, ya Qayyumu, bi-rahmatika astaghithu (O the Living, O the Eternal, I seek help in Your grace).
Source: Tirmidhi

3. Abu Hurairah reported that whenever the Prophet, peace be upon him, was faced with a serious difficulty, he would raise his head to the sky and supplicate, “Subhan-Allah al-’Azim (glory be to Allah, the Mighty).” And when he implored seriously and strongly, he would say “Ya Hayyu, Ya Qayyum (O the Living, the Eternal One).”
Source: Tirmidhi

4. Abu Bakrah reported that the Prophet, peace be upon him, said, “The supplications of distress are, ‘Allahumma rahmataka arju, fala takilni ila nafsi tarfata ‘ain, wa aslah li sha’ni kullahu, la ilaha illa anta (O Allah, I hope for Your mercy, so give me not over to my self even for as little as wink of an eye, and set right all my affairs, there is no god but You).”
Source: Abu Daw’ud

5. Asma, daughter of ‘Amais, reported that the Prophet, peace be upon him, asked her, “Shall I tell you words that you may say in times of pain or distress. These are, ‘Allah, Allah, Rabbi la ushriku bihi shai’an (Allah, Allah, my Lord, I associate none with Him).” Another narration says that these words should be said seven times.
Source: Abu Daw’ud

6. Sa’d ibn Waqas reported that the Prophet, peace be upon him, said, “The supplication made by the Companion of the Fish (Prophet Yunus) in the belly of the fish was, ‘La ilaha illa anta, subhanaka, inni kuntu minadh-dhalimin (there is no god but You, You are far exalted and above all weaknesses, and I was indeed the wrongdoer)’. If any Muslim supplicates in these words, his supplication will be accepted.” In another report we read, “I know words that will cause Allah to remove one’s distress. These are the words (of supplication) of my brother Yunus, peace be upon him,”
Source: Tirmidhi

7. Ibn Mas’ud reported that the Prophet, peace be upon him, said, “If any servant of Allah afflicted with distress or grief makes this supplication, his supplication will be accepted: ‘O Allah, I am Your servant, son of Your servant, son of your maidservant. My forehead is in Your hand. Your command conceming me prevails, and Your decision concerning me is just. I call upon You by every one of the beautiful names by which You have described Yourself, or which You have revealed in Your book, or have taught anyone of Your creatures, or which You have chosen to keep in the knowledge of the unseen with You, to make the Qur’an the delight of my heart, the light of my breast, and remover of my griefs, sorrows, and afflictions‘.” A supplication in these words will be answered. Allah will remove one’s affliction and replace it with joy and happiness.
Source: Reported by Ahmad and Ibn Hibban

8. Anas reported that the Prophet, peace be upon him, used to supplicate, “O Allah, there is no ease except what You make easy, and you alone can turn a difficulty into ease.” (Ibn As-sinni)

Source: Fiqh-us-Sunnah, Volume 4, #131

9. Allah’s Apostle used to say at the time of difficulty, “None has the right to be worshipped but Allah, the Majestic, the Most Forbearing. None has the right to be worshipped but Allah, the Lord of the Tremendous Throne. None has the right to be worshipped but Allah, the Lord of the Heavens and the Lord of the Honourable Throne.”

Source: narrated by Ibn Abbas in Sahih Bukhari, volume 9, #526.

Remember that sickness expiates evil deeds and wipes out sins

Abu Hurairah narrates that the Prophet, peace be upon him, said: “When Allah wants to be good to someone, He tries him with some hardship.”

Abu Hurairah also reports that Allah’s Messenger, peace be upon him, said:
For every misfortune, illness, anxiety, grief, or hurt that afflicts a Muslim
-even the hurt caused by the pricking of a thorn – Allah removes some of his sins.
” Ibn Mas’ud said: “I visited the Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him, while he had a fever. I exclaimed: ‘O Messenger of Allah! You have a high fever! ‘ He said: ‘My fever is as much as two among you [might have]. ‘ I asked: ‘Is it because you have a double reward?’ He replied: ‘Yes, that is right. “No Muslim is afflicted with any hurt, even if it is no more than the pricking of a thorn, but Allah wipes off his sins because of it and his sins fall away from him as leaves fall from a tree‘.”

Abu Hurairah (r) said: “The Prophet, peace be upon him, remarked: ‘The example of a believer is like a fresh tender plant; from whichever direction the wind blows, it bends the plant. But when the wind dies down, it straightens up again. (Similarly a believer is tested by afflictions to strengthen his faith and heart, and he remains patient and firm). And an evil person is like a pine tree which remains hard and stiff until Allah breaks it whenever He wills.”

Source: Fiqh-us-Sunnah, volume 4, #1

Link to the original article: http://makkah.wordpress.com/2006/12/02/stress-management-part-2/


112 thoughts on “Dua’a when under stress and anxiety

  1. SubhanALLAH we have read this article while in the University Lib and it has given us great comfort!
    Please pray for us 4 our exams!


  2. Bismillahir Rahmanir Rahim

    Alhamdulillah, may Allah grant you success and happiness in both your dunya and akhira. Ameen. Good luck with your exams, insha’Allah.

  3. Assalaaam-o-alaikum. Thank you for posting this article. It is exactly what I needed to read right now. I am facing many difficulties with my future plans and have been feeling completely dejected and alone. I try hard to remain positive and to pray and ask Allah swt for help – but it is very hard. I know that only Allah swt has control of what happens but I feel as though I have been facing difficulties for such a long time now, and the situation is not improving. I have prayed for a specific outcome, which does not seem likely to happen now and have faced many problems to even get to this stage. I feel like I am being tested continuously and will never reach this goal which I have wanted for such a long time. Alhamdulillah I am grateful for what I have and i know that this post must make me sound as though I am not, but I feel as though this one thing would make me happy, make my family happy and only lead to better things, has been taken out of my reach. Please pray for me. JazakAllah Khair

  4. Wa Alaikum as Salaam Dear Sister,

    Insha’Allah, sorry to hear about your difficutlies, but there are many ways through them insha’Allah. I will seek to mention a few of the key ways insha’Allah.

    Firstly keep turning to Allah and seeking His guidance. If you are doing this then know, that our turning to Allah is in reality, His turning to us. In other words, if Allah wills a soul good, then He will test that person, and all tests are intended for us to develop a greater awreness of Allah, and ultimately to grow closer to Him. Hence there is always immense blessing in difficulties.

    In terms of praying for a certain outcome, it is only possible to do this if one knows with absolute certainty that what we seek is actually for our benefit. Allah says in the Quran, ‘You may dislike a thing but in it is good” (2:216). Hence for this reason we tend to avoid praying for certain outcomes even though we may be convinced that what we seek is good. Instead, and with a view to changing our condition for the better, we begin by making sincere tauba to Allah for all our past and present sins, and to return and remain on the path of obedience to Him. The greatest happiness and satisfaction a soul experiences is through obedience to Allah. Then once in this state one seeks the guidance of Allah, and specifically guidance in whatever is best for us, not what we seek, but whatever is best. This assigns guidance to Allah and is our testifying to Him that we do not have knowledge only He does, we cannot guide ourselves only He can. Then, whilst we have done everything on our part to achieve what we understand, to the limit of our intellect, to be good, we leave the rest to Allah, to guide us to whatever is best. Remember that in general it is best not to seek a specific outcome because we never know what Allah may have in store for us, or where goodnes may come from, but rather simply to seek His guidance come what may. And more importantly to posess the trust and faith to be able to accept His guidance when it comes to us.

    Finally remember that the concern of Allah is with you. And He wants only goodness for you. Everything that Allah does for us is only for our goodness, and only what is best for us. And it is only ourselves and action that take us away from that goodness. Hence, the best way to maintain the pleasure of Allah, to maximise our chances of being successful in our dua for success and happiness, in this life and the next, is through His constant remembrance. The soul delights most in the remembrance of Allah. As Allah says, “Those who believe, and whose hearts find satisfaction in the remembrance of Allah: for without doubt in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find satisfaction”. (13:28).

    Dhikr’Allah is the true source of happiness, it is the nourishment of the soul, it is the heart’s content, it is the freeing of the self from the desires of this world, it is the elevation of the spirit to a plain where the effects of worldly desires diminish. This is not theory but can be easily practiced and its benefits felt simply through reciting short wird’s after fajr, after Isha, or before going to sleep. If you don’t already have it, I would recommend “The Prophetic Invocation”. Its a beautiful book with litanies, taken from the dua’as of the prophet (s), – well practiced throughout the Muslim world for centuries. Also seek the company of good righteous people, people that will strengthen your emaan, and help you on your journey to Allah. I hope this has been of help insha’Allah.

    All goodness belongs to Allah, and any faults therein are mine alone.

  5. salamu alikoum

    i want to thank you very much for this post, i was feeling very down and i googled dua and came across this blog, and i feel so much better now after reading, the when God wants to be good to someone, he tries him with hardships. it brought tears to my eyes. thank you very much and jazakkalahu kairan ameen

  6. Wa alaikum as Salaam,

    You’re welcome. Subhan’Allah its quite true, that when Allah wills good for His servant He tries them. When we realise that in our trials and tests there is actually much blessing then we see those tests in a different light altogether. It also makes dealing with our tests an easier process, we might not be able to prevent those tests, because ultimately they’re for our own good, and only God know what is truly good for us, but simply knowing that Allah has chosen goodness for us and because of that we are tested, that truly is humbling and a reminder that He is with us all the time even though we may not always realise it.

    There’s another hadith along similar lines when the Prophet (s) said, “Whomever Allah wishes well for, He grants deep understanding of religion.” [Bukhari and Muslim]. Again, in the short term our difficulties may not make sense but over time we gain considerable knowledge and experience which actually deepens our understanding of religion – in short knowledge is that one thing that makes life much easier because it enables us to understand what is happening to us and why…

  7. Alhamdulillah, that’s good. As Imam Al-Ghazali said, ‘Gratitude is the pinnicle of human spiritual development’. Its the highest aspect of ourselves and if we are blessed to acquire it then whatever struggle may have led to its achievement must in itself have been a blessing from Allah. So insha’Allah may you maintain this gift of gratitude and be increased in it day by day. Ameen.

  8. Assalamu Alayikum !
    I am 20 years old. I am a student. I live in USA. I got engaged almost a year ago. I have been in a relationship with my fiance for about 2 years. We both love eachother but for the past few months I have noticed that he is kind of losing his interest in me. He tells me that i am not pretty and i need to change myself a bit and he also gets bored talking to me sometimes. Although he makes me feel special and keeps telling me that he loves me but he sometimes hurts me a lot. Due to his changing behaviour and hurting comment i feel very low and depressed. I have started having an inferiority complex too. Kindly tell me some duas that could help me keep him interested in me and make him a bit more understanding and make our relationship even better. I would be really thankful to you for your kindness.

  9. Wa Alaikum as Salaam,

    Insha’Allah may this find you in good health and emaan.

    Firstly, thank you for writing. Good relations between people are an integral part of the Muslim’s understanding and practice of religion. We can see this throughout the Qur’an and Sunnah which constantly enjoins us to treat each other well and with respect. It also specifically mentions several categories of people, from the whole of mankind, to our parents, and immediate family, to other believers, those travelling, our neighbours, and so on. So how we’re treated by others and how we treat others is very important. In terms of your situation I would firstly say that you should go to a good scholar of knowledge, your local mosque, or if you’re not able to, then I have linked a site below where you can post your question directly and will get a good comprehensive answer insha’Allah from an excellent Shaykh.

    In general however, what I can say is that your engagement should be a source of joy and happiness for you and not sadness or upset. The purpose for engagement in Islam is that it becomes a firm commitment to marriage. Engagement itself should not be prolonged to such an extent where one or both of your interest in each other begins to wane. This is more important if you’re young because a long engagement can cause uncertainty.

    One important issue to bear in mind are your reasons for seeking to marry this person in particular. The best criteria for marriage is sound deen and good character because both of these are long lasting and will stand the test of time and trial. If the person you seek to marry has sound deen and character, and if his decision to marry is sincere then his interest in you should remain. But because you’re young deen and character are more difficult to discern in which case you should seek guidance from your parents and good people of knowledge.

    You should also view this situation of difficultly as a blessing from Allah because it provides you with the perfect opportunity to evaluate and reflect on the proper reasons for which you’re seeking marriage in general and why specifically this person.

    As I’m sure you’re aware marriage is a huge committment and because you’re still young and studying its not something you necessarily need to rush into. Take your time and research all the best reasons and criteria for a long lasting marriage that will be pleasing to Allah and think about what you should look for in the best companion because ultimately you want this to succeed permenantly. This is your life and happiness, and most importantly your religion, so take your time and don’t rush into anything.

    Finally, one of the ways in which Allah has safeguarded women is to place boundaries between men and women such that they should not engage in any contact unless within the proper context. This is for your own protection and its for good reason because what Allah wants for you is the best in the life and the next which means the decisions you make have to be based on what Allah prescribes and what the Prophet (peace be upon him) had instructed for us. When you have done all of the above, when you’re fully armed with sound knowledge about the best criteria for marriage from a deen perspective, when you have sought as much guidance from scholars, or a good imam from you local mosque, then you should make the Istikhara prayer and ask Allah for guidance as to what course of action is best for you and submit yourself to His guidance and decree. May Allah guide you to that which is best for your religion and guide you away from all that may be detrimenal to you and your religion. And may He find for you the best and most righteous spouse. Ameen.


  10. Assalamu Alykum brothers in Islam,

    while writing these lines my eyes are wet, I am sobbing … please and please dua for me I am indebited with Rs. 100000 which I had borrowed from Bank to marry off my sisters.. Now they warn me if I do not repay the amount they will publish my photograph in newspaper… please pray for me and give me a line of dua to recite

  11. Wa alaikum as Salaam,

    Dearest brother, I’m really sorry to hear of your difficulty, and insha’Allah I pray Allah find you a way out of your situation. If you continually and sincerely make any of the dua above, make tauba for any past sins, and genuinely seek the guidance of Allah, then Allah never rejects the supplication of the sincere seeker. When Yunus (alayhis salaam) found himself in the belly of the whale, and when he realised the situation he was in and that there was no way, by his own efforts, he could escape, for three days he made the following dua to Allah:

    “La ilaha illa anta, subhanaka, inni kuntu minadh-dhaalimin”
    (there is no god but You, You are far exalted and above all weaknesses, and I was indeed the wrongdoer)

    Allah answered his dua out of His mercy. Even if you might not have done anything wrong knowingly, or even if someone else contributed to your situation, making this dua just as Yunus (alayhis salaam) did will insha’Allah cause Allah to bless you with His mercy and cover you with His protection. How that occurs depends on the sincerity of your dua as well as the wisdom of Allah, such that, you may or may not see the immediate effects of your supplication. But Allah will do whatever is best for you insha’Allah.

    Something else that will increase your chances of your dua being heard is to pray Tahajjud and especially in the middle portion of the last third of the night. This is the time when Allah descends to the lowest heaven as asks, “Who amongst my servants is seeking my forgivess so that I can forgive him, who is seeking my reward so that I can reward Him.” Allah always answers the dua of the sincere seeker during this time. The night begins from Isha until Fajr, so divide that time into three so you know when the last third of the night begins and then pray within the middle of that last third. Pray two rakahs at least or more if you can and make considerable supplication after each salah, seeking the forgiveness, blessing, guidance and protection of Allah. And acknowledging to Allah that only He can find you a way out of your situation.

    Also, try to pray in Jamaah at the mosque as much as you can and try to be there before the adhan is made so that you can make the dua following the adhan:

    “Allah-humma rabbaha-dihi dahwatu ta’mma, was salatil ka-i-mah, aati Muhammadan-il waseelahta wal-fadeelah, wa’ baathum makaamun Mahmoudan, il-ladhi wa-a’tah”

    Make this dua and then pray to Allah to relieve your situation, for the dua after this supplication is never refused by Allah.

    Finally, try to fast as much as you can because fasting is for Allah who rewards the one who fasts from Himself, and especially also because the supplication you make when opening your fast and praying for yourself after this is also never rejected by Allah.

    Dua for Removing Debt

    There is also a specific dua for removing debt which you can make at any of the times mentioned above insha’Allah. The Prophet (sall’allahu alayhi wasallam) said, “Shall I teach you a dua that if you had a debt the size of Uhud in gold, Allah would fulfil it.’

    “Allâhumma Yâ fârij al-hamm wa kâshif al-darr wa mujîb da’watul mudhTar,
    rahmân al-dunya wa’l-âkhira wa rahîmhuma, irhamni fî qadâ-i dayni rahmatan
    tugnîni biha ‘an rahmati man siwâk”

    ‘O Allah, O Remover of anxiety, O Easer of difficulties, O Answerer of the call
    of the one in difficulty, Most Merciful and Most Gracious of this world and the
    Hereafter show mercy to me by removing my debt as a mercy which will
    enrich me beyond need of the mercy of others.’

    These are some of the means by which the mercy and blessings of Allah might come to you. But you also have to do what you can to seek the help of others. Have sabr with the decree of Allah, accept His guidance as it comes, be humble before Allah, make continuous dua and insha’Allah leave the rest to Allah and insha’Allah Allah will find you a way out of your difficulties. And remember once Allah has removed your difficulties continue to turn to Him in times of ease just as you did when you needed Him the most. Ameen.

  12. Salam aleikum

    Masha’Allah! You are a great servant of God, truly advising others towards truth and patience.

    I pray Allah may guide you into the lives of many people seeking guidance, so that you may continue to spread the healing light of Allah who will show them the way. Ameen.

  13. Wa Alaikum as Salaam,

    Jazakala khair, although I’m really not deserving such a noble title, only Allah knows best those who serve Him best. Ameen to your dua. Insha’Allah may Allah choose us to be from amongst the righteous. Ameen.

  14. Bismillahir Rahmanir Rahim
    Alhamdulillah, may Allah grant you success and happiness in both your dunya and akhira. Ameen. Good luck with your exams, insha’Allah.

    hello i need your help

  15. please make duaa for me as I am looking for work and I have four children to support and im in a marriage that I do not want to be in please make duaa that I can get a job so that I can look after my kids and myself and take myself out of this marriage and find happiness

  16. Assalam alaikum dear brother!
    Only Allah can tell how greatfull and comforted iam about your articles, advises and site in general! Considering the number of difficulties Iam going through in my life at the moment, and the way I have called upon the almighty i have no doubt that my prayers will be answered biethnilillah! Thank you soooooo very much for your words of comfort and wisdom! May Allah reward you with the best out of all your efforts!
    Sorry to all my brothers and sisters facing different problems, let us keep it in mind that Allah tests us all differently and never know, out of a misharp, He can return something better! As long as we always remember, pray to him, and thank him, everything will be okay inshallah! He makes what he wills easy and complicates what He wills! Let us all remember Him, the most powerfull, most mercifull! May Allah guide and bless us all!

  17. Sister Shaazie,
    Jazakala khair for your comment and sorry for the late reply. Although, I cannot imagine your difficulty I can say for certainty that that Allah always listens to the one that makes sincere du’a to Him seeking His help and guidance alone. There are keys to our du’a beings answered one of which is to seek from Allah that which is best for you and your religion for only Allah knows what is best for us and only He has the knowledge and power to bring about the best outcome. And insha’Allah He will respond to you and make things clear. Remember to seek Him constantly, to follow the Sunnah in all matters and to avoid what is haraam, for such matters take us away from Allah and prevent our du’as from being answered. If you can, pray at night, even if it is two rakahs and then make du’a to Allah for this is the best time to have our du’as answered in all humility before our Rabb. And remember, always have hope in your heart that Allah will answer your du’a. Have sabr and shukr, for it may be out of the wisdom of Allah that by being patient what was intended for you will come and in this patience you see that this difficulty led to something good for you for which you will be increased in gratitude to Allah. Allah knows best. May Allah make it easy for you, guide you to His ways and grant you that which is best for your religion. Ameen.

  18. Wa alaikum as Salaam sister,
    Insha’Allah, for there is no doubt that Allah responds to the du’a of every sincere seeker. And we can understand this in the fact that if Allah guides those that are yet to believe in the state they are, they may be worshipping idols and the like, and yet He brings them to Him, then imagine those that are sincere believers seeking His guidance and imploring His help. He has nothing but love and mercy towards His creation, which is the reason why He created us to begin with. When a person focuses on the positive aspects of their difficulty, as you have in your comment, and which although may be extremely difficult to do, it provides an insight and clarity which helps us to understand and then deal with our situation. What tribulation also achieves is to purifiy us of our sins, done with our without knowledge, it increases our statnding with Allah. Even more importantly, it is a sign of the love Allah has for us because He could have easily left us to waonder blindly and then taken us to account for all our wrongs and yet He chose to guide us and place some difficulty in our life such that we might turn to Him in sincerity. In that very process of turning to Him, it is not our difficulties that important anymore, it is the fact that Allah has got us to turn to Him. Thus, in reality, any tribulation of any kind, even if it be the slightest pain, which then causes us to think of Allah, is in reality Allah turning to us. If we realised how great a gift this is and the extent to which we have been saved in gaining this guidance and remembrance, it should in reality increase us in our gratitud to Him. Keep being positived keep seeking Allah sincerely and insha’Allah He will guide you to all that is best for you in this world and the next. Ameen.

  19. Salaam.. Thanks ALOT 4 All this.. It’s been REALLY Helpful & may Allah Reward you.
    I’m currently going thru a VERY PAINFUL & CONFUSING time cz I’m 18 & my dad has Chosen his New ‘Woman’ over Me & my 3 younger Siblings.. But WON’T let us go 2 Live with Mum (yet we’re All MISERABLE) & he keeps REfusinG 2 GO 2 cOURT for the custody heAring & 2 worsen matters his WOMAN is PREGNANT even after I warned him that she was an EVIL GOLDDiGGER!!! i REALLy need Allah’s help because I’m all alone & dont know what 2 do!!!! my FINALS are in a month & i jus nid prayaz 2 get thru this tym cz I REALLy dont wana FAIL but I gotta help my SIBLINGs!!!! i Need All Sorts of Adice & Prayers. THANKS

  20. Assalamualaikum wa Rahmatullah,

    Jazakumullahukhairan for this wonderful article. Please pray for me.

  21. Subhannallah, Allah (swt) guides and helps his servants in times of need.. I pray that I am one of those that do not stray from the righteous path insha Allah. please pray for me as I am in serious need of prayers right now. I

  22. I am currently going through some tough times.. I recently got divorced and I am so down and depressed.. I know everything happens for a reason and this was written to happen but I can not help having this weight on my heart and sometimes I don’t perform my prayers and that makes me feel even worse. I pray Allah (swt) lifts this weight of my heart and takes away the anxiety as I don’t want to feel like this. I am trying to stay positive but it is really hard.

    Please pray for a sister as I am in need of lots of dua right now.

    Jazakallah Khair

    Your sister in Islam.

  23. Wa alaikum as Salaam,

    Jazakala khair. Insha’Allah may Allah grant ease in your situation. Ameen.

  24. As Salaam Alaikum,

    Sorry to hear of your situation, but you’re doing the right thing in trying to remain positive. Remember the Messenger of Allah (sall’Allahu alayhi wasallam) who lost his wife to whom he was married for 25 years and whom he loved dearly, who also lost five of his six children, his grandfather, and two uncles – did not cause their loss to turn him away from Allah. As much as he loved them, and no one loved more than he did, he still remembered that whilst people may come and go, Allah remains. Thus, despite his losses and his considerable burden, not only upon himself but the burden of spreading the message of Islam, he continued to seek help and guidance from Allah without Whom he could not have succeeded in his task. What this means as a lesson and guidance for us is that whatever difficulties and tribulations we might face, whether by our hands, those caused by others, or by the circumstances of life, that it is only through the help and guidance of Allah that we can possibly overcome them.

    In this respect the best course of action is to hold firmly to your prayers, it is your lifeline to Allah, your support and the means by which you will continue to gain the blessings, comfort, grace and mercy of Allah. Turn to Him sincerely and seek His help and you will recieve it even though you may not always percieve it. Allah always responds to the prayers of His sincere servant who seek help from Him particularly when things are most difficult. As He says:

    If you never felt pain or experienced problems, how would you know I’m a Healer?
    If you never made a mistake,
    how would you know I’m forgiving?
    If you were never hurt,
    how would you know I can comfort you?
    If your life was perfect,
    then why would you need Me?
    Hadith Qudsi

    Remember that it is difficulties, and specifically the way we respond to those difficulties that define us. All of us are capable of withstanding considerable amounts of difficulty but this is only possible with the help of Allah. Difficulties also remind us of our need of Allah which is a true reflection of our condition from the time we are born until we die and then are raised up again – throughout this entire period we are in constant need of Allah because it is Allah as our Creator that is responsible for us – but in order to recieve His help we must turn to Him and ask for it.

    May Allah grant ease in your life, cause you to turn to Him for aid, guidance and help, may He increase your love for Him until you percieve none other than Him, may you hold fast to His deen and the guidance of His Prophet (saw), and from your tribulation may you become the best of yourself. Ameen.

  25. Asalamu Alikum.

    I am a 23 years old girl and recently completed my studies. My parents are looking for a nice and suitable rishta for me but are not yet successful. My mother is really worried and remains depressed all the time… I pray to Allah 5 times daily and also doing some wazifas… I know HE will listen to me and I have a firm faith in HIM… But I want you to tell me some specific dua so that I can get married as early as possible because I am so worried. Please pray for me …

  26. Wa alaikum as Salaam Sister,

    Jazakala khair for your question. Firstly, to begin, it is as you know, the Sunnah of the Prophet (sall’allhu alayhi wasallam) to marry. He mentioned that marriage is half the deen, and also in this regard mentioned, with reference to men, ‘a woman is married for four reasons, for her wealth, her beauty, her lineage and her deen…..marry the one with deen’. Although this advice is to men is also applies to women because in order to create a successful marriage requires that both the man and woman are in a good state of emaan, practicing sincerely, seeking knowledge, applying it and has the best intention to marry for the sake of Allah.

    This is general, however, very important advice before considering someone suitable and pious – which is that one looks at himself or herself, and looks at how they can fulfil the needs and rights of their husband and wife in the marriage. This is often a source of many problems today which is a lack of understanding about married life. Many people seek tp get married but then do not know what to do in the marriage which often causes many difficult problems which can be averted before thre marriage itself. It is a responsibility for both men and women to fully educate themselves with regards their own rights and well as their responsibilities towards their spouse. For example it is a right of the wife to be fully maintained financially by the husband, whilst it is one of the rights of the husband that the wife be obedient to him. However, in both these rights there is great flexibility, such that if the wife should choose she can help ease the financial burden of the husband by helping him financially although their is no legal requirement in Shariah for her to do so. And likewise, the right of the husband to be obeyed is not something the husband should exercise each and every day. The purpose for this right is because it is his responsibility by Allah to make those decisions over which he alone will be held accountable. In this regard I would highly recommend the CD talk, ‘Love and Marriage’ by Shaykh Muhammad Al-Yaqoubi which gives excellent general and specific advice for all those seeking to get married.


    The reason why looking at oneself first is important is because it may be something we are doing which is preventing us from getting married. It may be that Allah is protecting us by not allowing us to get married until we possess the knowledge we require regarding marriage. It may also be that by waiting we become more selective of the right partner rather than seeking just anyone. It is important not to rush into marriage but to take our time. Marriage is a lifetime commitment and should be taken very seriosuly. Of all the permissable acts Allah has allowed, divorce is the one Allah least likes. And thus it is important to make absolutely sure that we are marrying for the right reasons which is to seek someone sincere, caring, honest, trustworthy, and someone that is applying the Sunnah in their lives in the best manner. If one married for any other reason other than knowledge and character then, if that thing, be it wealth or beauty goes, then the marriage also suffers whereas choosing someone for their knowledge and character is a much better foundatnion upon which to build a long lasting and successful marriage.

    However, it is also true that we shouldn’t delay the marriage and if we have the opportunity to marry then we should seek the best halal channels to do so, such as through marriage events, through asking friends, relatives, through our local mosques and so on.

    With that said there are specific dua that we can read which are related to marriage and rizq. These include reading Surah Yusuf, the first three ayahs of Surah Talaq, readon Surah Wakiah daily and the dua of Musa (alayhis salaam) regarding help from Allah;

    “Rabbi inni lima anzalta alay-ya min khairin faqir”
    “O my Lord! truly I am in (desperate) need of any good that You send me!” (Qur’an, 28:24)

    I would also recommend the following talks:

    Single life as a Muslim – Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

    Getting Married – Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

    May Allah help you and guide you towards the best and most righteous spouse for you. Ameen.

  27. Jazak Allah khair to khushu,, May Allah (swt) bless u for taking the time to help everyone,, Ameen.

  28. Sallam Alikum,

    I was so depressed and was googling some comforting words and duas. Allhamdulilah came to this site. I feel little better jazakumallah khair.
    I am 26 and not married. My story goes something like this
    When I was 23 I got a great proposal I was happy and it was smoothly going for 6 months. But while this was in the process my parents accepted another proposal too. And I got confused as both guys were coming to home. My parents were leaning toward the second proposal. I listen to their advice and refused to first one after 9 month long process. Lasted with another guy for 3months but then they said No. I was sad and cried for month prostrating and praying. After few months I got another proposal who was from punjabi this lasted for 5 months but I had to refuse. Because my mom wasn’t happy with they guy but my dad was okay with it. The funny thing is while this proposal was going the prior guy who rejected me came back. Again my parents accepted and I was puzzled. But in end they both guys said no by themselves.
    I was lost again in prayers and duas to help reduce the continuous stress. By rhamat of Allah another proposal came. With him everybody was satisfied and happy. I felt I got the best guy in my life. We set marriage date got all the clothes. And three months before the guy refused to marry me. In fact he put wrong blames on me. My whole family was shocked and depressed because the guy was hafiz an why he break the commitment. My family told me Allah protected me and I should be thankful because he would have made my life miserable.
    I am thankful but feel sad that I am still not married. I feel like Allah punished me for first guy I refused for a wrong reason. Although I have approached to all three guys accepting apology and they said they have forgiven me.
    I pray and try to read quran daily, but I feel like Allah was mad at me. I am sorry in tears to Allah. Is it my mistake.
    Pray for Allah to give me sabr and insha’allah give me good proposal.

  29. Wa alaikum as Salaam Sister,

    Jazakala khair for taking the time to write. Marriage, when things work out is a beautiful act of ibadah that completes half our deen as the Prophet (sall’allahu alayhi wasallam) said, but it can also be a difficult process to undertake and to find for ourselves the right partner. The key to finding a good partner for ourselves is to begin with yourself first. Take a look at yourself, your knowledge, your practice of the deen, your ibadah, your sincereity and the purity of your intentions with Allah. Think about why you want to get married and whether you possess the right knowledge to be able to fulfill the rights, responsibilities and needs of your partner. All of this has a bearing on the kind of proposals you will recieve, who you will marry and whether you marriage will be successful. May Allah grant you success in finding a good husband. Ameen.

    I mention looking at yourself first because you have to remember the words of the Prophet (sall’allahu alayhi wasallam) when he said in a hadith qudsi related to Allah, “I am in the opinion of my servant, however my servant sees Me, that is how I will appear to him”. Therefore you must constantly bear in mind that Allah wants the best for you, and He wants you to succeed both in this life and the next. It is not Allah that makes things difficult but it is we that make things difficult for ourselves. In this regard think about the proposals that have come to you. Were you looking to marry that person for their deen or their dunya? For the knowledge and character that that man possessed or for the wealth or possessions he had. Remember, that if you marry someone for their wealth, wealth can disappear at any moment, but a person that is pious, sincere, possesses knowledge, good character and implements his knowledge is a better source of wealth, happiness and true security than money.

    Therefore sometimes Allah saves us from other people by not allowing the marriage to take place because it could have been detrimental to us, and sometimes Allah saves the other person from us because we were not seeking Allah and the Messenger (sall’allahu alayhi wasallam) in the marriage.

    Finally, remember that one of the best signs to look for in a potential partner is their knowledge and good character. Knowledge means, that person has made the effort to improve himself and Allah has rewarded him with knowledge. Good character means that Allah has rewarded that person will good qualities because of his sincerity and desire to implement what he has learnt. You husband should, when you look at him, remind you of Allah and His Prophet, he should not remind you of the dunya because this will take you away from the real treasure Allah has written for you which is to attain Jannah and to be in the company of the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wasallam). The person you choose to be your partner should help you towards gaining this eternal treasure that is yours, so the person you choose should be the one you best think will guide to Allah. Make dua to Allah for nothing else other than that He grant you that which is best for your deen, for you, and ask Allah that He take you away from those that are harmful for your deen. If you believe that Allah has the power to grant you anything, then make this dua with sincerity and believe that Allah will grant you your dua. May Allah grant you the best in this world and in the next and grant you a most loving, caring and pious partner. Ameen.

  30. Jazakallah khair for your message it did help me a lot. I did turn to Allah mostly asking for his help in this tough time. Maybe Allah did what is right best for me. It just I felt in love with a guy as I was getting married to him after three months. He was a hafiz and used to imamat. Initially he staed e-mailing me but I didnt shortly respond and he wasn’t happy. So he used to complain to my sister and dad that I don’t reply to his e-mail. And later he started texting. I didn’t used to text him but he was often mad at me that I take so long to respond and don’t talk to him. So than I started texting too. He used to come to check on my cars and would question me if i wasn’t at home. One day he went to my work without telling lucking he couldn’t get on my floor. In morning he used to come after fajr to my home and eat breakfast with parent and recite quran to them and he would ask where is Moneza. He used to send my ayah of quran and give me explanation and hadiths which I loved. As often of the reason I chose was because of his religion. He didn’t wanted me to work so I quit, he didn’t like field so I said insha’allah I will change it. I keep ignoring his minor things because I loved him. As he used to send shair of mohbbat and tell me that much he loved and he will marry me and I use to avoid talking with this stuff which he didn’t appreciated. He was 6 months smaller than me so he used to say that we should have kids right away because I am getting old. Then he would often compare with other woman that look masha’allah she is so young and have kids bla bla that made me feel bad but than again I used to ignore cauze I loved him. Once he called and he mentioned that hey we will have a first than we will take a break. I would love to talk islam because masha’allah I was always attached to it. but than he would tell the ayah of quran and expect to follow I used to say insha’allah. I lived in Saudia and mostly in US most of my life but he will ask is better if I wear kameez/shalwar and outside and he can tolerate with jeans. I said okay I will wear dresses but insha’allah I need to time to change but I will trust me. than after 4 month of engagement when we were about married he said wear abaya in front of me i am you non mahram. I wear full hijab and wear and long clothes so I said no i am not ready to wear that why you never first when you came to see me. And he is said this is wrong you should wear abaya and also especially in front of my brothers. But i was shocked as he never told me 5 months we were in relationship neither he discussed this with my parents. He used to text my sisters and his bhabi all the time. And he would text my sister 11:00, 11:30 in night complaining about me. And he would e-mail and talk to my sister doesn’t matter if they were work or so. He often came visited my mom she always used to give him advices and lectures, and he would understand and normal but after one week he started same thing.
    He give me niqab and afghani style hijab in a gift I was happy but i didn’t made a big deal as i loved him and respected him dearly as he was a hafiz. I told him once that yes I did had lot of proposal so he got mad at me. I did mention to him that its okay girls do get proposal it pretty common but he said that not right why you go proposal and you should not discuss with me which I never did till he questioned me. Often he mentioned that I want to marry hafiza so I would ask is he happy our date is set for marriage and he used to say yes I am.
    There so many things but I kept the sabr and argued If I couldn’t take it anymore. But one day I got his text saying that I am a lier and I broke his trust and he will find a perfect match from me. I said I love and want to be with you with time I will change. But he said you show you beauty to non mahram and you lie and you don’t respect quran etc. My parents, his parent, brother, Sheiks, Uncles everybody explained him and he said I don’t feel comfortable. Initially we both had done ishtakra and with tawakl in allah proceeded but he said that I will redo isthkara cause I got bad dreams. And I want to end this relationship cause I am very open, moderate and social which I am not. I had left everything for him and was ready to get married to him. I don’t even go out much, I had left most of my friends and I started wearing dresses but then why he didn’t trust me.

    -I prayed for All for the best, I got this proposal in shab kadr. He came to our home after leading taraweehs.
    -So, I did isthkara and made duas in tahjud time for the best of my life
    -Then why this happened with me. I loved than man dearly he promises, are in my head why he did this to me.
    – Why Allah is giving me such a hard test
    -I am so depressed I am 26 and it is so hard to find good proposals.

  31. Assalaam Alaikum

    I have exams in 2 days and last week has been very difficult for me as I have been in many problems. I came across your blog and read this; I cannot tell you how relieved I feel.
    Please make dua for me, for Allah to remove my worries and for me to do well in my exams.
    May allah continue to guide you and make you a means of guidance for others.

    Jazakallahu Khairun.

  32. Please make special du’a for me. I want to get settle in my new life as soon as possible. Jazak Allah

  33. Wa alaikum as Salaam,

    Insha’Allah your exams went well by the grace and mercy of Allah in Whose hands is all success, from Whom all goodness comes and to Whom everything is returned. Our success in this life is not dependent on our efforts alone but through the realisation of the truth of the words when the messenger of Allah (sall’allahu alayhi wasallam) said, ‘Shall i describe to you a treasure from beneath the Throne of Allah which He has not given to any people beforehand’? ‘It is, ‘La Hawla wa la quwata illa billa’ (meaning: there is no power or majesty except Allah or to put it another way, ‘all power resides with Allah alone’).

    When we place our faith and trust in this understanding that all power is with Allah, that we are required to do the best with what Allah has given to us, but then to leave all matters in His hands and to rely on Him completely, then we’re in the realisation of this wisdom. Whether it is exams or some other event in your life, remember that what Allah has determined for us is always better than what we can conceive for ourselves. So even if events do not take the course we want there is often something better to which Allah is guiding us. As a scholar once said, ‘Nothing is impossible with Allah and nothing is possible without Allah’

    May Allah grant you the best success in this life and in the next. Ameen.

  34. Salaam…wonderful stuff..havent read all however from what i have read Subhanallah..me..im lost…ive supplicated beyond imagination for 12 consequtive years for Allah to unite me with my son..we still not united..i had an illicit relation with his mother many years ago may Allah forgive me and have mercy on me for my sins for which to this day i repent tho i do not lead that lifestyle anymore..too scared and done the damage to my life here on earth…12yrs and over and im still constant in begging Allah Azza Wajal..and always seeking knowledge to find an answer to my personal dilemma…from being a really jolly guy i have totally changed in terms of personality and find myself to be too serious all the time…just to share with all my brothers and sisters ..i have never been undutifulo towards my son and have taught him about Allah and His messenger Rasool e Kareem Habeeb of Allah s.a.w…im so proud my son reads salah whenever he is with me and i have taught him to recite the Qur`an even tho he lives over a 100 miles from myself…my son is surrounded by non-muslims and his best friends are also non-muslim..this frightens the daylights out of me as i was easily misguided by shaitaan thru his advocates the kuffar especially the half naked female (pardon me) and the so called fun life has destroyed my world..so absolute no thanks..i have been getting up at tahajjud without alarms clocks just because i read bout the last 3rd part of night..ive been at it for nearly 12 yrs and i pine n yearn for my son..then i went and read tafseer of surah Yusuf and when reading the story of how Hadhrat Yaqoub a.s lost his eyesight pining for Hadhrat Yusuf i cried even more..overwhelmed…i dont love my son that much..and what was the outcome for Hadhrat yaqoub as.s when He found his son…..i guess what im trying to share is im not going to give up..many people who care for me said i should move on..moving on means im giving up hope..my hope is with Allah the All Mighty the All Powerful..and i remind myself of the qualities of Allah..mercy power control strength might love peace do i carry on?…the best thing is kun fayakoon and Fa innama al usriyusraa..Innama al usriyusraa…please all my brothers and sisters…im the wrong doer and may Allah forgive me..all im ask is pls make duas for my son that Allah may protect him and guide him just as he did Yusuf a.s in the absence of his father..and Allah is the best of protectors and guiders…also i ask that you make duas for my sons mother too that may Allah show her the light and guide her too…absolutely overhwlmed with pain and devastation..such is the decree of my Lord to bring me closer to him…i still search for answer so if anyone knows pls fwd it will be greatly appreciated…just to let of know..i read nearly every dua in the Quran there is that Allah ahs allready accepted..i need more..im so hungry for ilm of deen and its melted my heart over the years..and i recommend everyone this is the only best way there is…im 39 single and in a massive need for a spouse if you can understand ive been single now for 12 yrs and it proves extremely difficult…pls remember all our children in our duas…may Allah guide and protect us all..ameen..jazakallahu khaira

  35. JazakAllah for your kind words. And you are absolutely correct in saying that indeed nothing is impossible with Allah.
    May Allah continue to bless you with the strength of iman and continue to make you a means of comfort for muslims such as myself. ameen.

  36. Bismillahir Rahmanir Rahim,

    Insha’Allah you’re in a good state of health and imaan. Thank you again for your reply. I have some brief comments to your message which I will cover here and which I hope will be of some assistance to you. Firstly, I commend you on seeking a good pious husband. May Allah make it easy for you to find someone suitable. Ameen. However, in order for this dua’a to succeed, and for your efforts to be successful requires understanding and putting into practice some key points, which insha’Allah will lead you to finding a good and pious partner, one that Allah will bless you with ease.

    Firstly, remember the issue of modesty. It is important, particularly for the female that she limits her contact with any proposals. All contact should be through the parents or guardian. This safeguards the boundaries of the woman which have been established by Allah and His Messenger (saw). Therefore any proposal should not be contacting anyone else in your family in connection to you. He should also not be making any demands of you that you should do such and such a thing once you’re married or before you’re married. A man should seek the qualities he is looking for in a wife, if he does not find it in a person then he should find another proposal. He does not have any rights over you and therefore cannot legally ask you to change yourself for him. He can however reasonably ask you questions about your religion and history in order to gain an idea of your views, ideas and knowledge and from that he must decide whether to pursue the marriage interest or not. You are not answerable under Islamic law to any proposed marriage interests. This means that he does not possess the authority over you such that you should obey him. It is important to bear this in mind.

    Another important point is the saying of the Prophet (saw) that, ‘Nothing engenders love better than marriage’. What this means is that there is no love outside of marriage between a man and a wife. This of course does not relate to parents, friends or siblings, but it means that the love that marriage creates between a husband and wife cannot be replicated outside of marriage. Therefore when a man and woman claim to love each other before marriage because of even limited contact – cannot be claimed as love. This love poses several obvious dangers, but there are also subtle dangers of exposing the heart, particularly for the woman, who is much more susceptible to being emotionally affected than men. It is for this reason that Islam emphasises the importance of maintaining modesty, both in outward dress and inward character through protecting the boundaries of ones freedom. This protection comes from Allah and He grants it to those that observe His laws. If we want success then we must observe His laws.

    Through observing the laws of Allah, through maintaining our modesty, through protecting ourselves, we gain the blessings of Allah, we enable the goodness Allah has decreed for us for us to reach us, we enable our prayers to be answered and we are in a better position to know that Allah is pleased with us. This final point is the key to attaining success in terms of finding a good marriage partner. The primary goal is not to set out to seek a husband or wife, the key is to please Allah through our acts of obedience, to not be disobedient to Him in any way, to constantly make istighfar, to make constant dua to Allah, to have hope that Allah will answer our dua – and then to be patient.

    Remember that the marriage process doesn’t have to be a difficult undertaking. It should be a blessed time where you are learning about and looking forward to marrying your husband. If you’re having problems then it is usually a sign that there is something not right especially if the problem is with the proposed partner. Therefore you need to look at whether, if you’re having so many problems now, that these problems might continue if you were to get married. Allah always answers the dua of the person that sincerely seeks His guidance, the fact that you have had these problems with this proposal may be an answer to your dua – that you are being guided away from this.

    Finally, when we are tested with people, or through the marriage process, it may be purification for us, it may be elevation for us in our rank with Allah, it may be that Allah is educating us so that we learn about what we should seek and guard again what we should avoid. Therefore do not see these issues as something negative or bad, there is always goodness in all difficulties and Allah is always with the people of patience. Therefore my sincere advice is that you have nothing to worry about. Busy yourself in ibadah, in seeking repentance from Allah, in seeking His guidance, in completely acknowledging that only Allah can help you – and then be patiently obedient. Remember that the goal in getting married is not to find the right partner by yourself – Allah will find you someone – but to submit yourself to the will of Allah. If Allah is pleased with you, then you can gain the world. So, don’t worry about your past experiences, but look forward to the blessings Allah has for you. If you believe He can grant you anything then you will gain from Allah more than you can ever think of asking from Him. So ask Him with your heart and be patient – before long Allah will send you someone that He decreed for you. May Allah guide you towards the best. Ameen.

  37. salaam..jazakAllah for getting back to me..i dont see my post on the site which i feel is a shame…i make a humble request to put my post on the site..hopefully it will strenghen your work and inspire people to have hope n faith in Allah…and also a humble request in need of all your duas..my son lives amonsgt the kafiroon…please make duas Allah protects and guides him especially now hes a teenager..jazakAllah

  38. Thank you so much Khushu. Jazakallah khair for writing this it made me feel very good. May Allah bless you lot of happiness insha’allah and grant you success. May the doors of Jannat be open for you.

  39. Assalaam Alaikum

    I accidently came across my husband’s stash of porn on his computer. I was shocked because it is very out of character for him..thats what i thought any way. I confronted him and he acted like there is nothing wrong with it. I spoke to my in-laws and they said men are allowed to do these things and im overreacting, i asked them how would they feel if i did such a thing (astagfirallah) they said i cant even vebalize such an thing since im a women…
    Can i have your insight..what you think of the whole situation?
    I have decided to apologize to everyone for overreacting, and im not any one to judge. I will become a better muslim and try to change my husband. But i dont know how much patience i have left…

    Jazakallahu Khairun

    Jazakallahu Khairun

  40. Wa alaikum as Salaam wa Rahmatullah,

    Insha’Allah this message finds you and your family in good health and emaan. The situation you mention is indeed a difficult one to but as Allah says in the Qur’an, “Fa inna ma’al usri yusra, inna ma’al usri yusra”, Surely with difficulty comes ease, with difficulty comes ease. (Qur’an, 94:5-6). One of the meanings of these verses is that Allah will try and test His servants in order to purify them, to bring them closer to Him so that ultimately we receive His mercy and blessings. Therefore any difficult situation we face must be viewed in the context of whether something afflicts us directly or indirectly in which there are untold blessings from Allah. Furthermore if the thing with which we are tested is through the injustice of another person, which in other words means, someone has been unjust with us, and which Allah Himself deems an act of injustice, then this is an even greater means by which we ourselves can be forgiven our sins through seeking His forgiveness.

    In order to address this situation, the reason why we always begin with ourselves first is because, even when it concerns the sins of others, we must first think about whether we did something that brought the effects of sin of someone else on us. Now, that is not to say that we are responsible for another persons actions. Allah says in the Qur’an, ‘No soul is burdened with the burden of another soul’ (17:15). Therefore a person’s sins and mistakes are their own. However, in order to get to the root cause of this problem we need to look at the situation in its entirety. That is why we begin with ourselves and make sincere repentance to Allah to seek His forgiveness for any wrong that we may have done. This shows humility before Allah, shows Allah that none has the power to grant ease except Him, and it reminds us of our constant need of Him.

    The situation you have mentioned is not normal and healthy and you are right to want to address it for the sake of yourself and your husband. However, because of the sensitivity of the situation it is important to deal with it sensitively. Firstly, I would agree you did the right thing by approaching your husband about this. There is something wrong with this and I’m sure your husband knows this, but be gentle in your approach. Also, if you think this was out of character for him then it is important to be merciful with him because perhaps this action is not reflective of him as a whole. So, if you begin to address him about it then begin by listing to him his good qualities and the reasons why you chose him. Consider whether you have good and regular husband/wife relations. Consider both your levels of practice of the deen and whether there are deficiencies anywhere which may be manifesting in this problem. Do you pray together? Examine how consistent you both are in your prayers. Do you both wake up for fajr? Do you make regular dhikr to Allah? Is the income you earn halal? Because if any portion of it is not then it could be causing this problem.

    One good solution is to read everyday some form of wird, such as wird latif or ratib al shahir by Imam Haddad. Do this every morning at fajr and at Isha. Reading this wird will strengthen his and your emaan. Recite the names of Allah, especially Ar-Rahman, and Ar-Rahim, and also Al-Latif. When you recite the names of Allah recite it with Ya Rahman or Ya Latif. One of the most important and beneficial acts is to pray Tahajjud especially about 30-45 minutes before fajr. This is the time when the Prophet (saw) was born and if you make sincere dua to Allah during this time it is likely to be accepted. Try to encourage your husband to do all these acts with you so that it brings you both together, increases your love for one another, strengthens your emaan and provides a barrier in your husbands heart from the things he is engaged in. This is a problem of the heart and its treatment must begin with the heart. If you find your husband is not following you in these acts of worship then you should continue to do them with the belief that Allah will answer your dua. This is very important. Do not neglect your prayers and make an extra effort with the dhikr mentioned.

    One very important thing to remember is not to mention your husbands actions to anyone else. It does not concern them and it is out of the mercy of Allah that He forgives and conceals the faults of His creation. If we ourselves did something wrong, of which we could not guarantee that we would not, then we would also want someone to conceal our actions. Insha’Allah make sincere dua to Allah for His help and guidance and He will help you without doubt. May Allah grant your ease and success through patience and perseverance. Ameen.

  41. Sallam Alikum,

    For the past few months I been struggling with my dream guy. I just want to marry someone insha’allah if it’s best who is hafiz, and insha’allah one who is good in both academic and deen. And best for me in both deen and dunya.

    I had a rishta before with a hafiz but it didnt work out.

    But why why can’t my dreams come true I am not asking materialistic desires. I just want to be close to quran and be with husband to help him improve in it.

    Make dua for me

  42. As Salaamu Alalikum wa Rahmatullah,

    I pray this reply finds you in good health and emaan. Thank you for your message and my apologies for the delayed response. One of the key issues that emerges from your message is your pain and heartfelt words in relation to your son. Although without knowing the specific issues and causes surrounding this situation there are still general points which I can mention that I hope will be of benefit to you. Allah (subhanahu wa t’ala) says in a hadith qudsi, ‘I have inscribed the rule of mercy upon Myself’. He also says in the Qur’an, ‘My Mercy overcomes my Anger’. What we understand from this as believers is that Allah is merciful, that even though His slaves and creation make mistakes, that He overlooks those mistakes, forgives us and grants us another chance to gain His grace. This is something that we are absolutely commanded to believe in because people do make mistakes and sometimes those mistakes have consequences that we might regret, the regret we feel is from Allah and is in itself a form of mercy from Him. The reason why this regret is a mercy is because it causes us to turn to Allah, and there is nothing and no one that can cause us to turn to Allah except Allah Himself. Therefore you must recognise that even though you may have made a mistake for which you feel regret you must also recognise that Allah has, through this situation, caused you to turn to Him to seek His guidance, mercy, forgive and blessing. This is no insignificant thing because there are many people in the creation of Allah that are completely heedless of the existence of Allah, and consider also how many people commit wrong action but do not repent to Allah. So, the very fact that you are turning to Him is a sign that He has turned you to Him. This is not something insignificant because to simply be at the door of the All-Merciful is to have been brought to His Mercy, and to seek His mercy is to know that His is All-Hearing. Therefore, there is not one dua that you might make, there is not one prayer, nor even one moments remembrance whereby Allah does not hear every thought inside you and every word you say seeking His help.

    My sincere advice is simply to say that you should continue on the path you are, of seeking His help and guidance with the complete belief that Allah will grant you His forgiveness, mercy, aid and protection. Make sincere tauba to Allah with the complete belief that Allah will forgive you. Address Allah with humility, Ya Allah, Ya Rahman, Ya Rahim, Ya Afu, Ya Ra’uf. Never become downhearted and do not think that will not grant you His Mercy, His Mercy is already at hand with with praying to Allah. But in terms of your son, this is something that is in the Hands of Allah – about which there is something to mention about the story you relate about Yusuf (as). This is that the plan of Allah is perfect and His wisdom is without limit. It may be Allah will turn this situation around completely, this is in the power of Allah. So, therefore continue as you are in setting the best example you can for you son, continue to make dua to Allah seeking only that which is best for you and your religion. One of the best dua’s to make is to seek that which is best for your religion, do the best with what Allah has given you in your power, and then leave the outcome in His hands. Allah always accepts that sincere dua of His slaves. May Allah make things easy for you, may Allah grant you the best outcome out of His complete wisdom and mercy. Ameen.

  43. As Salaamu Alalikum wa Rahmatullah,

    Thank you for posting such nice article. It gave me much comfort just by reading the precious Hadiths and guidance from our Beloved Prophet Muhammad (Peace and Blessings be upon Him). Like everyone else even i am facing difficulties and if anyone reads my post, please do make dua for me along with dua for all distressed. due to my sisters married life problems i was being rejected in all families for marriage and after few years in 2009 i met my fiance and we got engaged. we are both from middle class families and depend on our salaries to set up a married life. however, just when we start planning the wedding, my fiance has been losing job. its been two years now and after a lot of difficulty he has got a job and we are planning in sha Allah to get married in july but since the past week he has again been facing problems at work. His boss has started behaving weird towards him and keeps telling him that he is not worth the job. I am sure Allah will help us. He has brought us together till now and in sha Allah our wedding will be as planned. please make dua for me that my fiance’s job remains secured and our wedding is done as planned. Ameen

  44. Asalamualaikum. I was extremely depressed and upset for the past one week. I used to spend day and night either crying or mumbling to myself or begging Allah for his guidance and kindness. I googled looking for duas that would help my anxiety and sorrow and then I came across this site. After reading everyone’s personal problems and worries, I am in tears. I am very grateful to Allah for always being there for me and for always guiding me in tough times. I will be honest. I was not a very good muslim.

    So here is my problem, around two and half years back I fell in love with this person whom I was friends with since childhood. He moved to canada when we were kids but we got in touch just 4 years back and then fell in love. Keep live in separate countries, he in Canada and I live in Bangladesh. Initially our problems started with him not wanting to marry me and he was confused. So he broke up. That left me devastated because I always saw him as someone with whom I wanted to spend my life with. After the break up.. for one year.. I was severely depressed and begged Allah to lessen my pain and only give him back if we had a real future or if it was meant to be. And one day.. just by miracle he came back to my life.. and this time he was a changed man. He wanted to get married to me and he encouraged me and helped me be more regular with my prayers. He told his mother about me and initially she did not seem to have a problem but recently she discovered that I was one month older to him and this really freaked her out. So much so they got into a huge fight and he left home and did not come home for two days. He emailed me and told me he is very hurt and needs time from all this. ever since I read his email I have been feeling very scared for him and for me.. I cannot see him in pain and neither do I wnat to lose him. I have been praying to Allah to lessen his hardships and ease his worries and mine.
    He has been going through lot of tough times and I always keep reminding him that Allah tests our faith through all this.. he does listen but he is begining to give up. I do not know what else to tell him or to tell myself. All I can do is pray.. and after reading this article I feel like I saw light in a dark tunnel.

    My faith has become stronger. I however need help… is there any dua to lessen a loved ones pain and hardships? I just want to ask Allah to help sooth someone’s distress. I do not know what else to do? Please help me.

  45. Asalamualikum..

    I need your help to perfrom istakhara for me. can u do it please? i desperately need it. Thanks

  46. Thanks i really needed some Islamic motivation to aid me in trying to overcome my anxiety as i was struggling to see the light.I’m not one of those people who’s gone through extreme tragedies in life that makes them depressed, and my heart goes out to you all that have may you find Sabr.
    Oh Allah forgive our sins, and save us a place in heaven as that is the place i cannot wait to enter.
    This is all temporary i wish i didn’t keep forgetting that,It’s a test that needs to be passed.
    I will try my hardest with the help of ALLAH (swt) to overcome these many obstacles the shaitan keeps on putting my way.
    Allah is more superior, the BEST.

  47. Assalamu alikum….
    Its very nice to read this. I firmly believe that all problems have a solution only through Allah, the most serciful. And i have been praying for that always. But im not sure if my prayers are in the right way.
    I am in love with a guy who is also a believer. BUt our future together is in doubt. we had met three and half years back and since then i hav been praying hard so that we would be enjoined in matrimony.
    At first his business was going well and everything seemed to go well because we only had to convince our parents. He had this ambition of going abroad for a copurse and settling down there..and continued making efforts in that direction. BUt nearly one year he struggled with the formalities and finally dropped his first choice Newzealand and went to Singapore instead. I thought all problems would be solved now. But no,even after going there and completing the course in very high marks he faced problems in getting a suitable job there. He came back and went again in search of jobs. still no result. when he finally got a job offer his visa has expired and had to come back.hoping that he would be able to get a visit pass so that he could go and sign the contract with the recruiting company. but such a small thing didnt happen and he was refused visa for another six months.
    THis has been the situation with him for tha last three yrs. everywhere he faces lots of hurdles. Things which would be solved in a matter of time for some wil take a hundred trials for him. I dont understand why this is so and i am worried about this. all this while i had great depression and every night i spend crying and praying for him.
    But by this time I got a well paid central govt job and my family is forcing me for another marriage because they dont know anything about our relationship.
    He is also praying but he keeps on telling that our marriage would be impossible beacuse he is not settled in life so that he could invite me to his life nor his parents would approve for our love marriage. He is telling me to get married to someone else. But i cant make my mind to do so. because i love him a lot and over time my love has only increased and I want to stand with him come what may..
    Please help me so that his difficulties would end and he gets what he wants by Allah’s Grace.

  48. I really was crying so hard through some tests that Allah S.W.T. has put me through…but I have been Alhamdolillah pretty patients I look to Him for my strength. I really want to thank you for posting these duahs as they really encourged me to not be so distressed. My favorite one is this.
    La ilaha illa anta, subhanaka, inni kuntu minadh-dhalimin (there is no god but You, You are far exalted and above all weaknesses, and I was indeed the wrongdoer)’. If any Muslim supplicates in these words, his supplication will be accepted.

    This really made the tears fall SubhannAllah.

  49. Assalamu alaikum,
    I found this article very rewarding, barakallah. Hopefully others would also use it in times of need.

  50. THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS>>i am 17 year old that is really stressed out as my father receantly passed away and i have no idea where I am headed in life. but than agian thank you for this post

  51. Mash’Allah this article is beautiful. I go by my saying “Remember Allah (SWT) in your times of happiness so, Allah (SWT) will remember you in your times of distress.” And it’s true.

  52. asalm alikum dear sisters and brothers i really need help of u my muslim sisters and brother who i can look up to. i need help with my depression and relationship with my fiance familly and friends i sometimes get very lost and out of control i dnt know how to make my fiance and family proud of my self i am not a bad person but when u get deprest things go out of my hand please sisters and brothers help me to get healtheir and make my fiance happy from me and i need a dua to become independent and come out of depression so that i can make my life … i need to improve my personalty may allah be with single of u my sisters and brothers.

  53. Salamualaikoom.
    I am currently in a horrible situation at university. i failed a term for a second time and now i am asked to withdraw from my program. i am planning on petitioning/appealing it and inshAllah by the grace of Allah they will give me another chance. i am in a terrible situation and i really dont know what to do. i have done everything i can subhanAllah i feel like this is such a huge test for me from Allah. nothing is in my hands and i have no control over anything anymore. subhanAllah everyone around me is doing well in school i feel so misplaced and so left out and feel really dumb about myself, all the money i wasted, all the time i wasted. i wish there was more i can do. alhamdulilah i do my best as a muslim i try to be as good as possible hang around the right brothers, go to the masjid as often as i can, try to be a good son to my parents, a good brother to my siblings, i feel like i let them down, i feel like i let my ummah down, i feel like i havent lived up to the beauty in my name, to the man that brought me inner peace may allah bestow his mercy on him. i just want all of this to work wallahi. thats it. i just want these failures of mine to be over. i want it all to be done, i dont want to be a failure anymore, i want things to be right. please those of u who r reading this make dua for me. please ask allah to make it easy for me. jazakAllahu khairan for listening, may Allah bless you all.

  54. Assalaamuwlaikum

    This is a good post Alhamdulillah

    Right now i am facing a lot of difficulty iam out of my house n country waiting for my babay’s passport n my family’s health including mine is not in a good state plz make dua for my family for Good in this world and Good in the hear after may Alalh give you the Good of the world and the Good of hear after Amen

  55. Salamz to you all brothers and sisters i will make dua for you all that all bring happiness in to your life please make dua that i pass sevral of my exams that are about to come up please guide me to be a better muslim please make dua for my family my sisters exams and my parents please make dua that allah brings me happiness in to my life x inshallah same goes to you all i will make dua for you and the muslim ummah allhamdulillah we shall have our prayers awnserd by allah

  56. Mashallah! wat an amazing post you have made…its so good u are taking out time to answer ppls question in such detail. Alhamdullilah
    Brother, Im a sister and am looking for a dua for motivation. I work at a store and keep making mistakes. But i dont want to loose the job, everyone in the store is relli nice. I want to do good in everything that i do at work, and do it effeciently. I need a dua that will help me do better at work. Please help me, and make dua for me aswelll! thank you

  57. ASALAM……………… Please do pray for me i have faced only obstacles in life ….. please , do pray for me nothing works for me …… i feel iam just standing in & every1 have passed with successs ……….. please do pray …. my prayers are nt heard
    jazak ALLAH

  58. I’m having a big exam tomorrow, Inshallah I will get a very good grade. Please help me Allah. La illaha ilAllah

  59. Salamz to all my brothres and sisters i will pray for you all and inshallah your duas will be anwsred i have up coming exams so please pray that i do well and sucesssfully pass inshallah i would do the same for you its to keep my parents happy please make dua for all my family and friends and make dua that i have a better happier life with the guidence of allah please i feel like i am very unhappy at the moment

  60. i hope Allah S.W. washes away all our sins and bless each and every muslim who has difficulties in life…indeed we need only ALLAH for our support….thank you so much for the duas, may Allah bless you and all the muslims at large.

  61. Thank you so much for posting this Dua’a, I really appreciate it. I have a presentation today and I am a little worried about. Insha’Allah it will go well. I hope that everyone will be able to overcome whatever troubles he/she is facing.

  62. Assalamu alaikum All brothers and Sisters,
    Please ask dua for me and my wife, I live in Australia by my self, I feel very hopeless and no one to help me and my wife too. We also facing many difficulties.
    we are in very depress and very sorrow. Please ask dua for Me and My wife and family to live very happy and release from all the stress and depression.
    Allah will help you all.

  63. Assalaam May Allah replace ur difficulties by hope strength, prosper and happiness Ameen May Allah give u n ur family the bes of this world and the best of hearafter and Save u from hell fire Ameen. Plz remember us in ur Duas too

  64. Assalamu Alaikum.
    Jazakallah hairen Khizrah. Allah will guide you in right path and save from hell fire Ameen and also will give you bharakath in ur life.

  65. I have a lot of health issues along with infertility these days I have been really upset and down please if you could remember me in ure prayers and also suggest some dua to be read …

  66. As- Salaam Alaikum wa Rahmatullah,

    Jazakala khair for your message. Sorry to hear about your health problems, insha’Allah may Allah grant you shifa’a.

    In this month, these are the blessed days and the blessed nights where Allah responds to the prays of the sincere suppliant, the sincere seeker of His mercy, and the sincere seeker of His forgiveness. For every tribulation there is an answer, it is therefore for us to seek the answer, the meaning and reason for which we may be being tried by Allah. It may be a test for us, it may be expiation for our sins, or it may be that there is some goodness in it that we’re unable to realise at this moment in time.

    Although it is often the case that we do not choose what’s best for us, it is always true that Allah always choose what is in our best interests. What this means is that Allah is inviting us to something greater than our immediate needs and wants – He is inviting us to contentment in Divine Decree (Rida). This is indeed a high station (maqaam) to attain but Allah only invites people to that which they are capable.

    Therefore, if you face tribulations know that it may be because you’re capable of withstanding them, or that Allah wills to draw you near to Him, or that Allah wills to raise your station, or that there is some good in it which requires your faith and patience.

    I would suggest reading surah yaseen in the morning and evening, and doing dhikr with the name of Allah, Al-Latif, through reciting Ya-Latif, 100 times a day.

    May Allah make things easy for you and draw you closer to Him. Ameen.


  67. Asalam-U-Alaikum WRWB,
    Thankyou for posting this, it really helped me realize why Allah swt sends hardship down our path. May Allah swt bless you for being able to comfort others and helping them out with their problems :)
    I am a senior in my last year of highshool now, and Im finding it really difficult to stay positive and not stress about my future everyday. If you could please suggest some duas for my case that would be REALLY appreciated! JazakAllah!

  68. Subhanallah i read your article thanks
    i have anxit problem (panic) please send me in english (dua) to read.
    Insha allah i can solve my problem.

  69. Asalamu Alikum,

    I’m in need of great help. I have just started university and I am not enjoying it. I’ve never felt this much anxiety in my entire life. Last year my very good friend passed away to cancer and it breaks my heart to say this, but even then I did not feel this much anxiety as I am feeling now. I am just so unsure what I should do because I do not want to go to university but my parents want me to go and they were so disappointed when I told them I want to drop out, especially because all my siblings went to university. Reading “When Allah wants to be good to someone, He tries him with some hardship.” has made me feel much better, but I just can’t stop this anxiety. I go to sleep crying, I wake up crying and I feel like no one understands. Please tell me what you think of my situation and anyway I can relieve this anxiety.


  70. Asalamualaykum………
    Where do I even begin to start, I feel as if my whole lifes been a test, from a young age I have constantly questioned my purpose on this earth. I’ve always had this fear of the future and what it holds, and constantly worry, and stress and have anxiety about life In general, although believe it or not Allah subahanallah has blessed me abundantly with so much, my health, my family,wealth, good to eat everyday, clothes,shelter…….and the list goes on…….but I constantly find myself searching for more…….I don’t know what……..my life has been a rollercoaster ride for as long as I can remember. As soon as I’m up……..I know there will be an equal or more Immense down, I’ve always been a pessimist…….afraid to live because of a fear of living if that makes since. Scared of society, scared of judgment, scared of FAILURE. of recent alhamdoulillah I got married to a woman I hardly knew in hope of turning my life around, a beautiful God fearing woman who I knew was going to be good for me and in turn change ways about myself that I had not been proud of. We met on the net, and basically sealed the deal within a month and a half, everything went so smoothly it was as if Allah wanted this to be………she moved countrys to be with me and everything was going well. I had told myself okay…..you don’t love her but you will learn to love her.and slowly but surly I was growing,getting to know her, liking her, her strong faith had started running off on me which I loved, family was happy, I was slowly moving in the right direction or at least the direction id hoped would have pleased Allah…………..and then……just like that out of nowhere………we found out she had cancer………and to cut a long story short, she’s back in her home country as she wanted to do the treatment there, which will take about 6 to 8 months, and to add to that weve been told she cannot have children…………my feeling are in such disarray right now as I care for and she is such a pious woman, she is so kind hearted and gentle and definatly one of a
    Allahs “better” muslims if you could say that….why her…………..and am not sure what will happen now with our marriage, but more I sit back and cry almost every day now asking Allah…….why, what do you want me to learn, why give…….then take…….what must I feel, what must I be asking, what am I to be doing, what is life about if its a constant struggle within ones heart and mind…………….I love my Allah and do not mean to question his ways……..I just struggle sometimes to understand them……….

  71. Dear Brothers and Sisters,

    Please ask dua from ALLAH SWT to have mercy on us and help break the severe black magic spell that we are undergoing, a family of few children for the past so many years. We are not able to break it no matter how much we pray and I feel that this is the ultamatum and our lives are in danger seriously. We need your prayers dear Muslims, it s very urgent, I tried my level best as a Father and as a husband to break this black magic charm but unable to. Please Brothers and Sisters of Islam, please take it serious and help pray for us as much as you all can, it is urgent. May ALLAH SWT kabul all the good wishes of all of you, Jazakallah Khair.


  72. Mashallha I have read all the dua I fill very relax thank u
    Plz send some dua to make my money go further. And my husband pay some every month so I don’t have to suffer

  73. I am so distressed and disheartened, because my husband and I have been seperated for 2 months. We were only married for 10 months and there was a lot of family interference. Just a few days ago he gave me the first Talaaq. If it were up to me I would go back in a heartbeat. His leavung for Baghdad tomorrow and I’m really praying that while his there he changes his mind and comes back home and says he wants to reconcile In sha Allah. Ameen. Please make duaa for me, I am really distressed and worried. I want to make up my home and I want my husband back, its been such a trying 2 months, Ya Allah! Please, please keep me in your duaas all, please. A humble request.

  74. Dear respected brother, I have a question for you regarding my life. Alhumdulilah I have 2 children and when they were 1month old I had changed theirs names because I didn’t like them but know I feel depressed. Its not that I don’t like their names but I feel sad in my life. Why am I losing interest in my family. Please Help me brother. Jazakala Khair.

  75. I am in much need of these duaas. JazakAllahukhairan for posting them. Please make a dua for me to find peace and for my family to find peace and for a very long triaal to come to end.

  76. As Salaam Alaikum wa Rahmatullah,

    The world is the abode of tests, and we are tested only so that we can gain closeness to Allah, be elevated in our spiritual state, be forgiven for our sins and be increased in our knowledge so in turn we can help others. May Allah grant you and your family His blessings, guidance, protection and mercy.


  77. As Salaam Alaikum brother,

    Jazakala khair for your question. In terms of changing your children’s names. The Prophet (saw) told us to give our children the best names when naming them. Indeed it is one of the rights of the child, of which the parents are questioned, that the parents give their children the best of names. It was often the custom of the pre-Islamic Arabs that they would give their children the names of animals, or inanimate objects to give the appearance of strength or to appear intimidating to their enemies. This was borne out of ignorance embedded within Arab custom. However, the Prophet (saw) changed this custom, and thus, whenever a person accepted Islam he (saw) would ask them their name and change it to one that was beautiful, one that beautified their character. The reason he did this was because he wanted every person to gain the greatest blessing of Allah and therefore he would remove any obstacles that would prevent those blessings from reaching that person.

    There are two key reasons why naming a child based on Islamic principles is important. One is that the name reaffirms the identity of the child, and the person they grow up to be. In possessing a name that clearly identifies them as a Muslim, it teach them of their own identity, inwardly to themselves and outwardly to others. The second key reason is that a person has the potential to acquire the characteristics of the name that he or she is given. This is true because conversely, when children are give non-Islamic names, or names that are used by disbelievers then this carries with it an adverse effect on the child and on the parents. It takes away the blessings of Allah.

    If the names that you have chosen are good Islamic names then you have fulfilled your rights as a parent in giving your children the best names. However, if this is not the case then you must seek to rectify this as soon as possible.

    If you changed their names from Islamic to non-Islamic names then it is important to examine why this was the case and what you need to do in terms of your deen and practice to strengthen your emaan. Sadness or losing interest in ones family, could relate to many reasons. However, in general there are two key points. Firstly, sadness or apathy, may be as a result of our own sins, which sadness expiates. Sadness felt in the soul can also be as a result of feeling distant from Allah. This distance is always one that we create by ourselves and therefore is a reminder that we need to re-engage our practice. Sadness is also a sign of the mercy of Allah because the sadness felt is the remorse the soul feels when it is away from its Creator, or has been disobedient to Him. Sadness is therefore reminder from Allah to us that He is with us, he understands our situation, and wants us to ask Him for help.

    Allah loves those that continually turn to Him seeking His help.

    Seeking the aid of Allah, to restore life into our heart, fill our lives with barakah, must be aided through our daily prayers, keeping the company of people that remind us of Allah, increasing knowledge, attending study or shirk circles and constantly thanking Allah for our blessings. Also, reciting the names of Allah, such as Al-Latif, which is recited Ya, Latif ‘O Latif’, every day helps us by Allah finding us a way out of their situation.

    Insha’Allah with this sincere practice Allah will grant you His guidance and mercy, and fill your house with His blessings.


  78. As Salaam Alaikum,

    Jazakala khair for your message. May Allah grant ease to your situation and bring about the outcome that is best for you. Continue to make dua to Allah and leave your situation in His Hands with the complete belief that only He has the power to grant blessings and resolve problems. You should also seek advice from qualified scholars and well respected Islamic teachers in your area from whom you can take advice regarding your situation. They will be able to offer practical advice. Marriage, as you know is something that both the husband and wife have to work hard to make successful because Allah does not grant success in anything without His servants working hard to acquire that success.

    The greatest source of all success is obedience to Allah. I know that this situation is difficult, and may have changed since your message, but remember that we never lose anything except that Allah replaces it with something better by His grace.


  79. subhan’Allah wa’l hamdolillah wa la’illa ha illah, jazak”Allah for posting this du’a and hadiths <3

  80. assalamu alaikum,tanq u 4 posting dis .it is very much useful to recite after every salah…

  81. jazzakallahukhaire
    This has really helped me and inshaallah will help me during difficult timed.

  82. Please dua for me, I have 3 islamic exams tomorrow, quran, islamic st and arabic. dua that i pass these please and that Allah will help me, inshaallah.

  83. Al Hamdulilah Rabi el Alamein at all times and in every situation.
    In the past two years I have been tried by Allah subhanahu wa talaa in a variety of ways. At first it was depression which brought me even closer to Allah alhamdulilah. Then the escalating war and catastrophe in Syria evidently changed my life for ever. I have had to leave my beloved country and my University that brought so much joy to my life and truly was I believe a blessing to me. Now, 6 months after moving to the US I still face new difficulties. My health has declined but I have faith that it will soon inshAllah be better than it ever was before.

    Despite the pain in my life and the pain I carry in my heart sometimes.. I know that Allah is the best Wakeel and I truly rely on him for everything. Knowing that he places these obstacles in our lives for a reason that they will help us be better Muslims really helps ease my pain.

    Thanks for this wonderful post and jazakum Allahu khayran.
    Pray for me that my dreams come true and that Allah guides me to a better life inshAllah.

  84. As-Salaamu Alaikum,

    Just as you began your comment with Alhamdulillah, so we begin each salah with Alhamdulillah. In other words, the salah which is central to the lives of Muslims begins with praising Allah, which means everything in our lives begins with praising Allah, whether we are in a state of tribulation or in ease. What this tells us is that the purpose of our existence is to praise Allah through recognising that everything good that comes to us is from Allah, and all tribulations, as difficult as they may seem, also bring us goodness. This may seem a difficult thing to understand, however, tribulations raise us in our standing with Allah, they help to erase our sins, they cause us to gain reward from Allah, and if we’re in a state of oppression by a tyrannical leader, then our dua’a made to Allah by those in a state of oppression has the veil lifted between our dua and Allah. This means Allah always answers the dua of the oppressed, as oppression is a thing hated by Allah, as Allah says in the Qur’an ‘Oppression is worse than killing’.

    Believers are those that are steadfast in their iman, and they holdfast to the rope of Allah, relying only on Him and not concerning themselves with the actions of the disbelievers. When we realise this with understanding, we realise that Allah has favoured those that are in a state of tribulation. If we are with Allah, then Allah sees the situation and suffering of the believers, and just as He has aided the believers at the time of the Prophet (saw), and all the centuries since, so Allah will grant victory to the believers in Syria and everywhere else. Ameen.

  85. Salaams,

    Having typed in dua’s to help with anxiety, I came across this site and it had me in tears.
    Currently I am going through some university anxiety to an extent that I have been having panic attacks.
    I have been working towards a certain qualification at a Masters level and although the first year went well. This year I am finding it extremely difficult to cope. I have been tested countless times this year and at times I feel like giving up but the finish line is just around the corner.

    My heart is overwhelmed with mixed feelings.

    I pray to Allah to help me but I feel ashamed to ask for help because truth be told I do not always remember Allah when things are going well.

    Please offer me some ways in which I can ease my mind, body and soul.
    As having panic attacks are extremely terrifying and leave me numb and withdrawn.

    I would like some dua’s, nasheeds or dikhr to sooth me as I feel this will benefit me more than having to take medication.


  86. Assalamoalaikum , I am very tensed for my mother from past three years. due to several family problems she really got depressed. She behaves like a child fights and shouts over small topics and speaks like crazy whole day. She is full of negetivity in her mind. This is making her weak and ill. I just dont know what to do..Please pray for her and tell me some dua which can make her calm happy and satisfied.

  87. Thank you so much for this article. After reading it i feel much better. For the past year i have been under huge stress due to school i am in my final year and often feel like just giving up. Please make dua for me. Once again thank you, may allah reward you for your good deeds

  88. assalamoalaakium, Please brothers and sisters make dua for me. I am in my junior year of high school, in a new school and I’m very stressed with all the school work and the difficulty of adjusting. Oh Allah please make my stress easier, and grant peace, and guide me in your straight path. Please please Please

  89. Assalamu Alaikum wa rahmatullah,
    I hope you are all well,
    I have exams this month and I am feeling very stressed about some of them as I am not well prepared and am scared of failure. I feel I will let my family and myself down if I don’t do well in them. I was feeling confident about most of my exams and very scared about a few; but over the last few days my anxiety got the better of me and I am scared for all of my exams and I have lost my appetite and constantly have “butterflies in my stomach”. Please brothers and sisters pray for me.
    I have started praying more often and this has helped a lot I feel. If you are feeling scared/anxious/stressed make sure you remember you are not alone and that Allah is always with you. Remember to pray and read the Qur’an, You don’t have to read a lot as long as you read some.
    Inshallah I will make dua for all of you and all your families and that Allah relieves your stress and anxiety and solves your problems and guides you down the right path.
    Inshallah you will all get through this tough phase and when you feel you cannot take it anymore remember to just sit down and read the Qur’an or pray. Inshallah Allah will bless you all and help you out of your difficult situations. Never give up hope because you are never alone. I will make dua for you all.
    Asalaam Alaikum.

  90. As Salaamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullah,

    May the mercy and blessings of Allah be upon His Ummah, and the Ummah of the Chosen One, the Elect Muhammad (saw). Trials and tribulations are some of the most difficult things we will go through in life, they are given to us to test us, to increase our emaan, to strengthen us, and most importantly to bring us closer to Allah. How does this happen though our difficulties. Consider if we had a life of ease, Allah may test us to see if we turn to Him and remain strong in our faith. Consider that we may be suffering from low emaan and we pray to Allah to increase us in emaan, Allah will test us with tribulation so that we will turn to Him in dua so that He can answer our dua. If we have our dua answered then this raises our emaan because Allah rewarded our courage to turn to Him when we were in difficulty. However, all tribulations and tests, no matter how great our problem, or how small our need, are all intended for one purpose which is to bring us closer to Allah. This is not a physical closeness because Allah is always close to us, but a spiritual closeness through increasing our reliance on Allah for all of our needs, great and small. And when those needs are met we show gratitude to Allah alone. Finally, we should always remember that Allah always wants what is best for us, not what we want for ourselves, but He knows is best for us. As Allah says in the Qur’an, ‘Maybe you dislike a thing that is good’. In other words, only Allah knows what is best for us, and therefore when we are faced with tribulation the best dua is to seek forgiveness from Allah for all our sins, guidance to what is best for us, and taufiq that we desire what Allah desires for us.

    May all those facing tribulation find peace and security in Allah the grantor of ease. Ameen.

  91. Asalam alaikum wa rehmatulaah, Thankyou ..this has helped alot , i am going through a very difficult time and feel like my life is never going to be better.I am always stressed,anxious,unhappy and feel hopeless about everything.But after I read ur article i am feeling alot better , plz pray for me .Jazak Allah

  92. can some kind soul please advice me on the following matters, so i can gain some sense of peace and relief through this difficult time.

    sometimes i cannot understand why i am facing so many trials at once, (my mother has suffered a stroke, my husband is also not very well and lives very far from me due to the fact that he has not yet got his visa, i have financial problems, i worry that my siblings are getting old and have still not married or settled down, and i am constantly bombarded with worrying thoughts that something bad is going to happen in the future)

    i get angry thinking of my oldest sibling who is married and has got children, because i always feel that he and his wife dont want some of us to move forward (marriage and children wise), this is not based upon suspicions but on the words that come out of their mouth. everyone in the family helped them to move forward and now they think it is a competition! how should my attitude be towards such people ?

    i know i should be patient but sometimes i get frustrated at my life and start to question when this will all change, i find myself feeling spiritually low and blaming Almighty Allah, thankfully i ask for forgiveness when i come to my senses, how can i cure this problem.

    i wish Almighty Allah cures all my loved ones and those who are suffering, and blesses us with many children and grants us serenity in this life and the hereafter. ameen.

    p.s how can i make my wishes and dreams come true ? (e.g my husband being here with me asap, having children, finding a decent job, being a good muslim, caring for my mother and father)

  93. As Salaam Alaikum Wa Rahmatullah,

    I pray you are doing well and in a better state in yourself and with Allah. Ameen. I also apologise for the delay in responding to your comment. In terms of the questions you mention, and the issues you are facing in all aspects of your life which includes both your deen and dunya – we are reminded to remember the Prophet (sall’Allahu Alayhi Wasallam). Why you may ask? Primarily, so that we understand the extent to which Allah tested the Prophet, and how that relates to our own tests and tribulations. Everything has a purpose in the Qadr of Allah in our lives. This we see clearly in the tests faced by the Prophet (sall’Allahu Alayhi Wasallam) from an early age. The Prophet (sall’Allahu Alayhi Wasallam) lost his father before he was born, and lost his mother at the age of 6. Hence he was an orphan as a child. He was then taken under the care of his grandfather Abdul-Muttalib who died only 2 years later. By the age of only 8 years old the Prophet (sall’Allahu Alayhi Wasallam) had already lost the closest people to him in the world. His uncle Abu Talib then took care of him and took him into his household. The Prophet (sall’Allahu Alayhi Wasallam) grew up in the household of his uncle and married Khadijah bint Khuwaylid (radhiyallahu’anha). However, his uncle and his wife, to whom he had been married to for some 25 years, both died in the same year. We can only imagine the grief of the Messenger of Allah. Furthermore, the Prophet (sall’Allahu Alayhi Wasallam) buried 6 out of 7 children during his lifetime, 2 of whom were children of the age of two years.

    The above is only part of the tests faced by the Prophet (sall’Allahu Alayhi Wasallam), we haven’t mentioned the difficulties he faced in proclaiming Islam to the people, the opposition and hostility he faced which continued even while he was facing such immense grief as losing his wife and children. And yet we ask why did the Prophet (sall’Allahu Alayhi Wasallam) go through these tests, what was their meaning and how should we respond to the tests we face?

    Firstly, the purpose of our existence on this earth is to be tested by Allah. As Allah says in the Qur’an, ‘Do the people think that they will be left to say, “We believe” and they will not be tried?’ (29:2). Our belief in Allah will be tested – but what is its purpose?

    The purpose of being tested by Allah, which could be through anything, is so that we detach our love for the dunya, such that, our love is only for Allah and His Messenger. Why is this important? The reason for this is because as much as we may seek or want a life for ourselves on the earth, what Allah wants for us is far better. Allah does not want us to become attached to this world but instead wants us to focus our sights and all our efforts on attaining His mercy and gaining Paradise. That is why whenever we are tested Allah is asking us one question – who do you love more – the dunya or Allah? In other words He is asking us, ‘What do you want more – the dunya or Me’?

    If through our actions we show Allah that we want the dunya more than Him then He may grant us the dunya but we lose Him, but if we show Allah that we love Him more than the dunya, and that the dunya is insignificant to us, then He may grant us both the dunya and Him.

    It is also important to consider that Allah always grants us His blessings to the extent to which we can bear those blessings. For example if Allah granted a poor person an immense amount of wealth He would know that his wealth will corrupt him and would cause him to lose his deen, and therefore Allah only gives to people what they can manage at that particular time in their lives.

    My sincere advice to anyone in a similar situation is to ensure we are focussed on our salah because our dua’s to Allah are more likely to be accepted when we are constant in our prayers. We must ensure we are avoiding what is haram, for example in our our income and food, we must ensure we do no backbite or even discuss the matters of other people if it does not concern us. All these actions cause us to lose our hassanah (good deeds), and in the case of backbiting we receive the sins of the person we were backbiting against if our good deeds were not enough. We should consider that the tests we may be facing may be a sign that we are deficient somewhere in our lives. Therefore, we must always look deeply into our lives and actions in order to understand why Allah is testing us? Is it because we have not fulfilled our duties to Allah?

    Finally, something we must consider when we are tested is that the path to Allah is humility, tests humble us before Allah – so before we are humbled by Allah we should humble ourselves before Him such that He grants us His Mercy, His Blessings, His Protection and His Guidance. If we ask Allah to grant us these four dua’s everything else will come to us as Allah wills.

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